Social media is pretty amazing. I’ve had the opportunity to connect with some pretty incredible momma’s all over the world. Many of them being twin momma’s who, like myself, are just trying to get through our crazy lives one day at a time. When Fi over at MyMorseCodeBlog posted about the #RockingMotherhood blogger’s collaboration, I messaged her immediately!
I’ve never defined myself as “career woman”. I went to college and obtained my Bachelor’s degree but never had the aspirations to go out in the world and ‘become something.’ To be perfectly honest, all I ever wanted in life was to be a mother.
I married Tommy in March of 2015 and by July, I was pregnant. We had just closed on our first home together; the timing was perfect. At the end of August, a sonogram confirmed two heart beats and we were ecstatic. Not only was God blessing me with a pregnancy, He was giving me TWO lives to grow, nurture and love for the next eight months.
I’ve been a mother for a little over year now. A year that has brought me smiles, laughter, tears, exhaustion, anxiety, but most importantly, the greatest love I could ever imagine (times two). I truly believe that I am #RockingMotherhood. Here are my 10 reasons why:
- I’m a full time working mother of twins. My day starts at 5am and doesn’t end until 9pm when I’m finally drifting off to sleep before I have to do it all over again. No breaks, no naps, no rest, Monday-Friday.
- I take care of myself in the process. I eat a clean, healthy diet. I find the time to make myself healthy meals in addition to feeding my children as healthy as possible.
- My babies are healthy and happy. Having premature babies brings much anxiety and worry about their overall health and development. Every doctor’s check-up was approached with crossed fingers and hope that my babies (mainly Skyler) gained weight and were on the right track. I thank God every day that they have had no complications and are now exactly right where they should be.
- I have an amazing mother and I owe a lot of my success as a mother to her. When Tommy went back to work after his paternity leave, my mother came over Every. Single. Day. And spent the whole day with me until he came back home. Being alone with two infants was still so overwhelming for me and I couldn’t have made it through the first three months without her. Since going back to work last May, she has become my caregiver. I bring the babies to her house every morning and I know they are in the best hands all day.
- I wake up every day with a smile ready to take on whatever mommy challenge the day wants to throw at me. I’m not one to panic or stress easily which is why my journey through motherhood has gone pretty smoothly (well as smooth as it could possibly go with two babies).
- I’m organized and stick to a schedule. Children crave a routine. They know what to expect and when to expect it, which is another reason why my days go pretty smoothly. I do the same thing at the same time every day and if I don’t have dinner in their mouths within five minutes of walking in the door every evening, I’m sure to hear it.
- I go out in public with my babies, alone. Yes, you heard correctly – alone, in public, with twins. Now, while this does not happen often, I’m pretty proud of myself for doing it. It’s usually just a quick trip to the mall and they don’t ever leave the stroller. But I’m proud to say that behave well enough for this to happen when it needs to.
- My babies come first, always. I even passed up an Anniversary dinner with my hubby so I could spend the evening with them instead. I don’t get much time with them, so every free minute I do have is all theirs. These are the years that are just going to fly by and I want to soak up each moment while I can.
- I don’t compare myself or my kids to anyone else. We are all mothers just trying to get through this journey without our unwashed hair turning completely grey. Whether you’re a working mom or a SAHM, whether you have one child or seven, we all have our own beautiful story to tell and not a single one of those stories are the same. You are #RockingMotherhood – not the wrong or right way – but YOUR way.
And I saved a big one for last…
- Five months ago, I became a living organ donor. My husband needed a kidney transplant. I wasn’t a compatible match to him directly, so we went through a living donor exchange program and someone I don’t even know received my kidney. My husband, in turn, received a kidney from another living donor. We both had surgery on October 11, 2016 when our babies were only 7 months old. I went into the OR at 1:20pm and woke up in recovery at 4:00pm. I was brought to my room by 5:00pm and was standing up walking by 6:30pm. I was discharged and went home 24 hours after that and (with help from my mother) went right back to being a mother. Although I wasn’t able to lift the babies yet, I didn’t skip a beat. They were my motivation and my strength. They were the reason I become a living organ donor. They are my reason for everything. Their smiles, their laughs, their unconditional love are all the reasons why I am #RockingMotherhood.
To ensure this love for #RockingMotherhood continues, tell me the reasons why you rock!